Jennette McCurdy's Allegations Against Her Mom Changed The Relationship With Her Brothers Forever

Publish date: 2024-06-10

Highlights

Jennette McCurdy's relationship with her brothers was called into question after the allegations against her mom in her memoir.
McCurdy found healing and empowerment in telling her story.
Despite a toxic relationship with her mother, McCurdy had a different relationship with her brothers.

In the aftermath of Jennette McCurdy's unsettling revelations in her memoir, "I'm Glad My Mom Died", the former child star mentioned the unwavering support she received from her brothers. McCurdy's memoir is imbued with dark humor as she recounts the horrible truth about her 'narcissistic' mother and her childhood stardom.

Despite their typically private nature, McCurdy's three older brothers steadfastly stood by her side during her emotional healing. Breaking free from the toll of fame and learning the truth about her biological father, McCurdy felt empowered in telling and owning her story.

How Jennette McCurdy's Brothers Reacted After She Released Her Memoir

Jennette McCurdy revealed that her brothers had been cheering her on after she published her memoir. She mentioned that her brothers were supportive and understanding, especially about the bold title of her book. McCurdy detailed her mother's (Debra McCurdy) abusive nature and emotional manipulation that haunted her even after her passing in 2013.

In an interview with Time, McCurdy spoke about her relationship with her brothers and emphasized their role as great friends. "My relationship with my brothers has been a great source of camaraderie and support for me…"

Jennette McCurdy's Details per jennettemccurdy.com
Full Name	Jennette Michelle Faye McCurdy
Birthdate	June 26, 1992
Birthplace	Los Angeles, California
Profession	Writer, Director, Singer, Producer, Former Actress
Management	Mainstay Entertainment

Although her brothers typically keep their lives private, Dustin McCurdy spoke about her sister's book ahead of its release, per The Washington Post:

"... It was a very deliberate, very covert, clandestine relationship. Back then, it seemed like Jennette often tried to get us in trouble and kiss up to mom. Now, I totally get it. She just wanted to stay safe in whatever way she could."

In an interview with Buzzfeed, McCurdy recalled a Disneyland trip with her oldest brother's family, Marcus McCurdy. McCurdy told the outlet that she enjoyed spending time with Marcus and his daughter.

"... I was watching her and went to the bathroom and just cried because it's so beautiful to watch a child just be able to be who they are... That is an opinionated, hilarious child that is so authentic. I think I've healed through watching them and their relationship with their parents. Just being able to be around children who are so free."

Not much is known about her other brother, Scott McCurdy. He lives away from the spotlight and was never seen with Jennette at any public event.

Revelations In Jennette McCurdy's Memoir Did Not Affect Her Relationship With Siblings

Jennette McCurdy mentioned in Red Table Talk that she was content in life without children and if she were to decide to have kids, it wouldn't be for her own identity. "I am happy to be an aunt. I am open to maybe a couple of years from now if something hits me and I just feel like, 'Yeah, I do want [kids]' -- but for now, I am good."

Despite McCurdy's toxic relationship with her mother, she shared that she remained extremely close to her three brothers, who gave her the title of aunt through their children.

"... I am so close with all three of my brothers, and they are supportive and consistent in my life. We have such a beautiful bond. There is an understanding because of the things we went through together."

Jennette And Scott McCurdy Were Forced To Shower Together

Jennette McCurdy shared with People Magazine that her childhood was largely devoted to appeasing her mother, particularly when it came to accepting Hollywood roles. "My mom had always dreamt of being a famous actor, and she became obsessed with making me a star. I felt like my job was to keep the peace. And I wanted to make my mom happy."

Behind the scenes of her strong-willed character on screen, McCurdy grappled with obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety on the set of iCarly, and a debilitating eating disorder when her mother introduced her to 'calorie restriction.'

Jennette McCurdy's Films and Shows:

Hollywood Homicide - 2003
Tiger Cruise - 2004
Against Type - 2006
The Last Day of Summer - 2007
Fred: The Movie - 2010
Best Player - 2011
Ice Age: Continental Drift - 2012
iCarly - 2007 to 2012
Swindle - 2013
Sam & Cat - 2013 to 2014
Between - 2015 to 2016
Little Bitches - 2018

According to Vanity Fair, McCurdy admitted that the toughest part of writing her memoir was to describe how she and her then-16-year-old brother, Scott McCurdy, were compelled by their mother to shower together and to relive the account of her mother bathing her until she was 16.

According to an excerpt from McCurdy's memoir:

"Mom showers me with Scotty sometimes... He's almost 16 at this point. I get really embarrassed when she showers us together. I can tell he does too."

McCurdy mentioned how she and Scott would look away from each other and distract themselves whenever her mother made them take a shower together.

Jennette McCurdy's Mother Used Her Brothers To Gaslight Her

A clip from Jennette McCurdy's interview on Jada Pinkett Smith's Red Table Talk, captured McCurdy recounting an email that her mother sent after seeing a photo of McCurdy with a guy on TMZ.

In the email, McCurdy's mother expressed disappointment with the actress, mentioned her disapproval of her association with a man, and alleged that her daughter lied about him. The email continued with remarks about McCurdy's appearance and accused her of eating her guilt, expressing disgust at the thought of her with the man she was seen with.

After Debra McCurdy passed away, their father, Mark McCurdy, revealed to the siblings that Marcus was his only biological child. Dustin, Jennette, and Scott were fathered by a man named Andrew, with whom Debra had an affair for seven years.

Debra McCurdy continued to throw insults at her daughter before concluding in the email that McCurdy's brothers also resented her.

"Sick! I raised you better than this. What happened to my good little girl? Where did she go, and who is this monster that has replaced her? You're an ugly monster now…. They [her brothers] all said they disown you just like I do. We want nothing to do with you," she wrote.